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Things Men and Women Should Know About Each Other

A lot of the differences between men and women have to do with the differences in the brain.
For instance, women, on the whole, have a keener sense of smell, taste and touch than men.  So it's important for men and women to communicate with each other in regards to their preferences.
Does she like it if you take a shower before playing, or does she like it if you don't?  Ask her.
Women, keep in mind that many of his senses are not as sensitive as yours, so be sure to tell him if odors or tastes bother you.
I am very sensitive to touch, taste and smell.  I like a man to be freshly showered before playing. Most cologne gives me a headache, so I prefer if a man doesn't wear cologne.  I can even be very sensitive to the smell of deodorant, so I prefer that a man uses unscented deodorant.
It's also important to me that a man's breath smell fresh and clean.  One of the smells that I intensely dislike on a man's breath is coffee.  So if you are going to go on a date with me, be sure to not have coffee right before we meet, or if you want to kiss me good night, don't have coffee after your meal.
Men's preferences in regard to smell can vary as well.  One guy that I went out with, loved me to be squeeky clean before sex, which is also how I like to be.  But I've been out with another man who loves my natural body scent and would love to play with me when I came home from the gym all sweaty.  Another man I went out with requested that all my nether regions to "marinate" for at least 24 hours before he saw me, he wanted me to be "ripe.
So it's very important for men and women to communicate with each other in regards to body scents.
Women's skin is ten times more sensitive than mens, so it's important to ask a woman how she likes to be touched.  Her reality may be different than yours.
I am often asked about why women like so much foreplay and men like to get right down to it.
One of the reasons has to do with differences in the brain.  When woman's brain is at "rest", there is actually a massive amount of activity going on in the brain.  And when a man's brain is at rest, the brain activity is relatively quiet.  They have done lots of brain scans on men and women that demonstrate this fact.
Men's brains are always looking for stimulation.  With lower brain activity and higher testosterone levels, it doesn't take a man much to get him going.
Women on the other hand, need to have their brains calmed down in order to get turned on.  So a generous amount of foreplay is needed to help her transition from living in that hyper active multi-tasking brain, to getting her into her body and ready to play.
I have found that what turns me on most is when a guy will massage my entire body and touch every single part of my body before he ever touches my genitals.  In fact the longer he massages me without touching my between my legs, the more excited and wet I get.
I especially love foot massage.  And I found out that one of the reasons for this is because the sensory center in the brain for the feet is right next to the sensory center in the brain for the clitoris.  A good foot massage, always turns me on and turns off my over active brain.
Here's another fact that I found fascinating that has to do with differences between the male and female brain.  Because of the way we evolved, men as hunters, women as gathers, women have much better peripheral vision, and men have better distance vision.  So men get caught looking at another women, much more often than women get caught looking at other men.  When men look at a woman, their head usually turns because their peripheral vision is not so good.  This causes them to get caught looking.  Women can look at another man, but not look as if she is, because she is using her peripheral vision.
Also, men have better night vision, so if you and your partner are driving at night, you might want to let the him do the driving.
For a lot more information regarding the things I've shared here, I recommend the book "Sex on the Brain" by Daniel G. Amen M.D.
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Patrick Vollmer on Friday, March 25, 2011 8:22 PM
Thank you for sharing this Keisha, there is a lot great info and insight that is very helpful. all the best to you, Patrick
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Keisha on Thursday, December 15, 2011 12:36 PM
Thank you Patrick. I appreciate your feedback! Lots of Lust, Keisha

Frank on Thursday, June 23, 2011 7:44 PM
I agree that men have better anterioral distance vision & women better peripheral. Many people don't realize the human body is STILL "engineered" for hunting/gathering on the savannahs of Africa and hasn't changed much for 400k years...though, I've always been happy that my temporal bones are relatively flush, giving me pretty decent peripheral vision. I've a) rarely had to consciously use it, but b) have never been mugged at least! Ha ha! I think that some men (probably a small majority - 52%?) make a conscious choice not to look over the details of another woman if they are in an exclusive relationship - whether their girlfriend/wife is there or not. For me, it has alway just been good practice because I NEVER wanted to hurt my significant other's feelings when we were in public together. The men that DON'T make that conscious choice...well...they're probably in an unhappy relationship, and deservedly so. That never happened to me in the two long-term relationships I've had because both times I really believed I had found the right woman for me. That said, when I'm single and walking down the street there are a couple scenarios that I've observed for 25 years that really support the data for the strengths in male/female vision that you mention: A woman I'm attracted to is walking down the street and I want to but can't approach and talk to her (this only happens if I don't have the time or I think she is with specifically co-workers, which is always a reputation and all). Because (as is for most people) almost all the women I'm attracted to at an instinctual level (the media doesn't define what I find attractive) are also attracted to me, she will usually either give me body language "it's okay to approach and talk to me" signal or look at my eyes to try and meet them to signal the same. Sometimes these women are alone, sometimes they're not (that's a whole other topic, lol), but I have YET (at 39 years of age) to remember seeing ONE woman who turned her head as we were walking past each other (remember - me not having time) in order to meet eyes with me. They ALWAYS keep their head straight and move only their eyes. Even if they're alone. They might do this while also doing a body language signal mentioned above (the straightening-the-blouse-hem, the more intense running-the-hand-through-the-hair, the pulling-at-the-jacket-lapels-if-she-has-special-breasts-so-you-notice-them, and the most intense - the walking-right-in-front-of-you, etc.. There ARE men who know probably all your "moves", ladies! Ha ha!) And, yes, I feel stupid if what I thought was a signal from someone attractive turns out not to be a few seconds later! Ha! I've been lucky in having ex's who always were respectful of my feelings when we were together in public and who I hope are with the men of their dreams right now. I've always felt bad for people who are in a passionless relationship because they financially HAVE to be in order to survive (almost all blue collar people). Counting my blessings! And the number of antelope in the distance over there!
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Keisha on Thursday, December 15, 2011 12:35 PM
Thank you for your lovely and thoughtful response. I'm so glad you enjoyed my writing.

Lots of Lust, Keisha

Peter Londsale on Sunday, May 20, 2012 9:40 AM
Dear, Thanks sharing the experiences which are very helpful to a Sexholic like me.Most girls get irritated to perfumes Cigar and even chew gum odour.I also realized that these girls are very intoxicated in sex and one such girl I Played with had very loud orgasms too. Thanks Keisha for sharing. hope you may share more in this blog. Best wishes Peter
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Poul Ribbon on Tuesday, October 2, 2012 1:20 AM
Very intuitive allocation!!! I hope it is not possible to know man and woman each other. I am pleased to read your informative post. It is truly so good post at all.
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blogcauseon on Tuesday, May 21, 2013 10:50 AM
Very efficiently written article. It will be helpful to everyone who utilizes it, including yours truly :). Keep up the good work - looking forward to more posts.
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