What is Tantra?
I have been a student of tantra since 2014. In December of
2018, I completed the Source School of Tantra Certified Tantra Educator course.
I have since added this to my title description and to the repertoire of the services I offer. I've learned so much in this
course and am excited to share with you all the yummy things I've learned.
Many people have emailed me and asked "What exactly is
tantra?" Tantra is inclusive of a lot of
things, but I will answer the question “What is tantra?” in relation to how I include
tantra in my professional sessions.
I use tantra as a sensual healing modality to bring more consciousness
and the healing energy of love into your body.
One of the things we will do at the beginning of your
session is set a healing intention for that session. I will ask you, “What would you like to bring
into your life?” and “What would you like to let go of?”
Some of the things my previous clients have said that they'd like to bring into their lives are more confidence, laughter, joy, a greater connection
with their body and their sensuality, a greater connection with their
spirituality, and the ability to stay in the present moment. Other clients have said they wanted to bring
in a new life circumstance such as a new job or a new beloved. You get to decide what it is that you would
like to bring into your life, and it can be anything that resonates with you.
Things that previous clients have stated they'd
like to let go of are: shame, guilt,
lack of self-confidence, insecurity, anger, depression, an attachment to an
old relationship and/or a broken heart.
Again, it can be anything that resonates with you.
Then we will go over our boundaries, fears and desires. When I first ask clients what their
boundaries are, they don’t always know off the top of their heads, so they might
say that they don’t have any boundaries.
But that’s not true. We all have
boundaries even if we don’t know what they are yet. At the beginning of each session I will ask
you some questions that will help you discover some of your boundaries. Then I invite you to stay conscious and present
during your session and if you come upon a boundary, please let me know. It could be something as simple as the fact
that you don’t like your feet touched.
In sharing your fears, you might share about the fears you
have in regards to the session, or perhaps fears that you're
dealing with in your life. This is an
opportunity to have your fears heard and honored, so that they can begin to be
And when sharing your desires, it can be what you desire
for this session, or it can be what you desire in your life. It can be whatever
comes up for you in that moment.
My desire for our session is that I am fully present with
you in each moment, and that I create a safe container for you to have a
wonderful sensual healing experience.
Another aspect of tantra is breathing and sounding. During your session, you will be encouraged
to breathe deeply and make any sounds that express how you feel. Both breath and sound help to carry the
pleasure all over your body and also help to intensify your feelings of pleasure.
Tantra is also about opening up your chakras. We especially focus on connecting your heart
chakra with your sensual chakra. Chakras
are energy centers in the body and when you fire up the sensual chakra, it
fuels the rest of your chakras above it.
It’s very healing and energizing.
You don’t have to know anything about chakras in order for your healing
to be effective. It will happen
One of the things we will do toward the beginning of our
session is what I call a tantric hug. You will reach one hand around to the
back side of my heart chakra and one hand on the back side of my sensual chakra
and I will do the same to you. We will
take several deep breaths together and then give each other a big bear
hug. This is a wonderful way to introduce
our bodies to each other and connect our energies together.
One of the most powerful aspects of tantra is sharing the
energy of love. As I am massaging you, I
am bringing the energy of love from my heart chakra and allowing it to flow
down through my hands into your body. It
is a very powerful healer. Sharing the
energy of love is different than sharing the emotion of love. The emotion of love is what you share with
your beloved. But the energy of love can
be freely shared with anyone who comes across your path. I have a great capacity for the energy of unconditional
love and acceptance. When you are in a session with me, you will feel that
beautiful energy of love and it is very nurturing and healing. It is my intention to provide a safe
container where you can relax and receive the energy of love.
One aspect of tantra is connection through eye contact. I will encourage you to connect with me eye
to eye for at least 50% of your session.
Sometimes you might want to close your eyes and focus on the enjoying the physical sensations,
but it’s wonderful to open your eyes for part of the time and look into my eyes,
connect with me, and know that I am here for you and your healing.
Another possible tantra lesson that we may bring into
our session is learning ejaculatory control.
I can share tantra techniques with you that can help you to bring more consciousness
into your body and help you to extend your pleasure by learning techniques on how
to control your ejaculation.
One of the things that I've learned from studying tantra
is the powerful concept of separating giving from receiving while doing my professional sessions. In today's society, men rarely get the
chance to just relax and receive. They've been taught that they need to focus on making the woman feel good. While this is a noble intention, it has been
warped into men focusing on their performance and attaching it to their self-worth, and they often end up feeling inadequate. One of the things that can make a man learn
to be a better giver, is to first learn how to be an exquisite receiver. In our sessions, you will be invited to let go
of all notions of performing and letting go of all performance goals. You will be invited to just relax and receive
and learn how to be an exquisite receiver.
If you would like to be coached on how to become an exquisite giver,
I do offer those types of coaching sessions, but only after you've had
several sessions with me of focusing on being an exquisite receiver. Learning how to be an exquisite giver requires
that you focus on really listening to your partner so that you can learn what truly feels good to them, rather than just doing what you think would feel
good to them. And learning how to be an
exquisite giver, also requires that you let go of performance oriented goals.
Another luscious facet of tantra we can incorporate
into our session, is the conscious cuddle.
This can be done at the beginning or the end of the session, depending
on how you are feeling. It’s a great way
to begin or end a session.
If all of this sounds good to you, then I encourage you to fill
out the appointment request form and let me take you on a conscious sensual
journey that will enrich your life and take your pleasure to a deeper level
than ever before. If you're new to tantra and/or new to seeing a sensual provider, I encourage you to read my page "For the Newbie".